Love is the most used, abused and confused word in our world today. Everyone talks about it. Music is made of and about it. Books are written of and about it. Poets rhyme of and about it. Religions boast of and about it. We all relate to love. The truth is our relation and response to love is differently unique. We express ourselves in love and about love differently. For some of us giving gifts is love, for others empathising is love. To others spending time to talk is love whilst others see complements as a way of showing love. In facts others see sex as the only way to show love.
But the question is, when I tell you, ‘I love you’, how do you understand it?What comes into your mind when I say ‘I’m in love with you’? Do you have the answer or you are now thinking about it?
Your ability to show love to your spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend is a direct reflection of how you understood what he/she said at the initial stage of your relationship. Your actions towards him/ her is directly proportional to your understanding to his/her ‘I love you’.
‘I love you’
Unfortunately most of us decode this statement in different ways and forms. Some see ‘I love you’ as an invite to ‘chop my money’. Some see it as plea to ask for favor. Others see it as a tool of enticement. Others see it as a bargain for sex whilst others see it as a call to be in harmony. The way you see it, will be the exact way of responding to it.
These perception or understanding are carved by our family background, society and our culture. We are compelled to accept a way of love by how the society interprets love to us. We are seriously at the mercy of the society. Until we are enlightened about love, it will be difficult to learn or unlearn what we have come to know love for.
How you understand love is how society has taught you, and how you respond to love from a spouse, boyfriend or a girlfriend is determined by that understanding you have had from the society. In order to respond well to your partner, please make sure to ask “what do you mean by ‘I love you”?
Mr. Evans Baffoe
Editor: Miss Emmanuella Oduro Appiah